Sendu Posted February 1, 2018 Share Posted February 1, 2018 I'm just a new member on Fuwanovel, but I feel the community pretty warm. We haven't had the occasion of knowing each other that much, but being motivated by the Fuwa confession thread, and by the fact the community is always open-minded and willing to share thoughts and help each other, I'm writing and posting this. It's my first time in my life I'm not able to take a decision, and that's because is something it could influence all my future life. I'm an EU student, I cannot study in my country. My family's not that poor, but the situation is very difficult to explain, my father's holding most of the income and the previous children, my step brother and sis', already took most of the money (with the help of their mother), and they really did nothing good in their life. So I've never had that much of an occasion or possibility in my life. After a lot, really a lot of difficult and complex situations with my parents, I went on a long journey and learned a lot of useful life stuff. Now I am studying, without money's not simple at all. I can get money from Denmark in order to study, the only requirement is that I find a part time job with crazy work hours and treated much worse than any Danish being a foreigner (in Denmark). Studying and working with these conditions, it will eventually bring you to a different amount of money per month by the government depending on many variables, but if you don't waste them, you can live here (not in the capital, but in the smaller cities, yes). I don't like Denmark, I never liked it. Young people are kind of nice, old ones are often racist. But even the young ones are so difficult to get along with, the country is small, there is not so much to do (except alcohol and so..) and is not surprising that Scandinavia is the area with the biggest % of depression in the world (you've to see to understand, and I've been traveling all of it, from the "big" cities to the deepest countries and the high freezing mountains). I'm originally from Italy, I went proudly away from my country in the hope of better possibilities, but I admit I would gladly go back to my country, perhaps in bigger cities rather than in my small native ones, if I could have the chance. Of course, like many here, I'd love to live in Japan. Mine's not weaboo stuff, I love the Asian culture. I actually love their strong educational system for personal reason. The geography, the climate and the people, I heard food's not bad too. I am a high school dropout (I stopped going to HS), not for my choice. So most of my possibilities usually involve International Baccalaureate (IB) where I can get high school certification studying in English (and Japanese at the same time too, really great). That's what I'm doing in Denmark, in deserted areas while learning a language I don't even like (perhaps I hate Denmark a little bit due to all the problems I went through and for the current Danish behaviour towards foreigners, I saw non Danish homeless tears in my own eyes, I had very hard times too, with the help of truly fake NGOs too). There are possibilities in Japan, great ones. For example, a school named UWC ISAK in Nagoya gives you full need based scholarship and free access to a dorm, so you can even socialize, get to know and fit into the Japan culture, and put your mind in studying and developing yourself for real as well. I'm sure if one wants to study there are scholarship possibilities for higher studies too, especially the merit based ones. Denmark is expensive as crazy, I eat like shit because I'm always broke and food is so expensive. I'm going to pay at the least EUR 1300-1500 to live 3 months here (cheap as hell, I studied all the supermarkets and made tables with nutritional values and cost to keep the budget low. I only pay for a shared apartment and food). Some money is already spent, but I still have EUR 1200, with that money I could flight to Japan and get enrolled in a school there (when I arrived in Denmark, I lived as a homeless for 2 months, I can live quite cheaply). Now, things get a little more complicated. The IB system usually puts an age limit, 19 years old, and I'm already 19 years old going on the 20s. It's not a strict rule, though, any school can choose what they want to do. But I'm pretty sure 99% state they don't enrol people who're 19 if not in the last year of the program (it's a 2 year program, with a preparation course of 1 year if you don't qualify for the 1st year). My school state the same in the website. Now, here's the fact: I went a day in this IB school I'm attending in Denmark, and I just talked, I was 100% sure they would not enroll me for my age as Danish people are so strict on everything. But, they told me sometimes they make exceptions, and I've got enrolled with a simple interview and not so much of questions (plus, I've got enrolled after the school was already started). In my class at the least a 30% is over 18yo, and many people are over the age limit in all the years here. I don't know about the Nagoya school or other IB schools in Japan, but it could be that they do the same. Nevertheless, I think exceptions like this are made with a little of smooth talking and when they can see your face clearly and hear you speaking with your mouth in front of them, not by e-mail for sure, and probably not by phone too. The fact is, I really don't know if I should spend money in Denmark or just go to Japan. I feel like going to Japan is a risk (but, all my life and the travels also have been at risk, and Japan wouldn't be the worse about the situation I went through for sure). I feel like staying in Denmark is a risk too, a risk of living like shit never fulfilling any dreams. A life of struggling in shit jobs, living in deserted areas, and never being able to actually move to Japan, but spending every month all the money to live in Denmark. I'm quite sure I heard of so many people who never fulfilled their dreams and regret all their life. It's also very hard if not impossible to keep my motivation in studying here, I'm great at studying, really, but I feel like it's going to be harder and harder living such a life in Denmark (I'm already losing motivation here). This situation has been in my mind for so many weeks, and I'm so scared of taking the wrong choice that will influence all my future. You guys, I read that some of you are life veterans here, I want to ask to those and all the Fuwa members: what would you suggest me? PS.: I thought this was a little too long to fit in the Fuwanovel confession thread, so I opened a new one here. I'm sorry for the long thread, and I sincerely appreciate any kind of help. Narcosis, Funyarinpa and Akshay 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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