Cloud87 Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 (edited) Fellow gamers & fellow otaku please forgive me for asking i admit it's kinda embarrassing because if anyone ever walked in on me playing any of my favorite games including these games they might be nosey and asked me what am i doing,what am i watching or what am i playing or what am i reading. Or a another good example is when & if i buy anymore in my collection online & if i choose to even though i buy my stuff both online & in public it depends and if it came they might ask me what did i buy/what do i have there or if it did not came they might ask me what am i waiting for to come in the mail. & honestly i don't know should i be honest with them & tell them what it really is or what am i really waiting for to come in the mail & no no I'm not seeking approval I'm only asking your advice ahead of time when & if i buy any in my collection. Sorry if this seems like a stupid or dumb question & yes i know some games,anime,manga can be kinda awkward if they found out your taste &/or your collection anyway i leave it here or at least for now thanks for reading,thanks for your understanding & thanks for your helpful advice & tips & before any of you asked yes I'm including any of my family including my parents,my friends,girls & women too as well if you want me to don't worry Edited January 21, 2017 by Cloud87 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ningen Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Step 1: grow up Dergonu, Nandemonai, Narcosis and 6 others 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cloud87 Posted January 21, 2017 Author Share Posted January 21, 2017 1 minute ago, Ningen said: Step 1: grow up I'm just curios is that all steps you want to give me? & if you wanted to know I'm 29 years old my birthday was on December 28th last year Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ningen Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 1 minute ago, Cloud87 said: I'm just curios is that all steps you want to give me? & if you wanted to know I'm 29 years old my birthday was on December 28th last year Then act like it. You are not 12-year-old who has to hide naughty books from his mom It's not like people will you burn you on a stake for fapping to VNs. (at least not literally, that would be murder) Nandemonai 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cloud87 Posted January 21, 2017 Author Share Posted January 21, 2017 2 minutes ago, Ningen said: Then act like it. You are not 12-year-old who has to hide naughty books from his mom It's not like people will you burn you on a stake for fapping to VNs. (at least not literally, that would be murder) I am acting my age & can i ask you from your experiences would you let your family including your parents or your friends see you during that love scene or as some cases H-scene when & if you're playing any of your favorite games :)? Before you ask about store clerks that's different story all together so I'Im only just asking about your friends & your family & lol i bet they're think your a perverted when you're not a pervert sorry if that joke is out of line i had to do the joke anyway thanks again for responding though :). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veshurik Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 Em... I just playing VNs and other people usually don't say what I'm doing. Just "meh, what the..." - and that's all. I continue to enjoy it, and nothing happens. If you want to know about, how I deal with 18+ scenes, I usually read them, when nobody at home, for example. And yeah, I have some 18+ content as physical edition, but I keep it in safe place and don't show anyone. It's only my treasure, hah. So... I don't have that problem. Cloud87 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cloud87 Posted January 21, 2017 Author Share Posted January 21, 2017 Just now, Veshurik said: Em... I just playing VNs and other people usually don't say what I'm doing. Just "meh, what the..." - and that's all. I continue to enjoy it, and nothing happens. If you want to know about, how I deal with 18+ scenes, I usually read them, when nobody at home, for example. And yeah, I have some 18+ content as physical edition, but I keep it in safe place and don't show anyone. It's only my treasure, hah. So... I don't have that problem. Thanks for sharing your extra tips,advice & thanks for sharing your experiences with me & thanks for understanding what i mean when I've thought of asking you all too as well :). Veshurik 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ningen Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 6 minutes ago, Cloud87 said: I am acting my age & can i ask you from your experiences would you let your family including your parents or your friends see you during that love scene or as some cases H-scene when & if you're playing any of your favorite games :)? You are basically asking whether we would watch porn with our parents. Having porn as an adult is only natural, but you don't watch that with your parents... Do people browse youporn while friends are over celebrating mom's birthday in the next room? Same for you playing games with your waifu getting doublepenetrated by orcs. Why is that even a question. Tweek91330, Okarin, Cloud87 and 1 other 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cloud87 Posted January 21, 2017 Author Share Posted January 21, 2017 2 minutes ago, Ningen said: You are basically asking whether we would watch porn with our parents. Having porn as an adult is only natural, but you don't watch that with your parents... Do people browse youporn while friends are over celebrating mom's birthday in the next room? Same for you playing games with your waifu getting doublepenetrated by orcs. Why is that even a question. True i completely agreed with you about what you mean & that question was meant a joke or as some of you might call it a joke question . & i apologize again if my joke is out of line. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Okarin Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 I'm 33, 34 in a couple of months, and playing VNs in earnest. Honestly there are somewhat WTF games like some Senran Kaguras and the like, where fanservice and client pandering are taken to the extreme. I don't really like that either. But some things are of private nature and since I'm not finding a lot of VN fans in my vicinity, I might as well not tell anyone what in the name of Bon Jovi I'm doing with my free time. Heck, it's my free time, no one really cares what I do with it nor would I divulgate it either. As an example, people don't really talk that much about their sexual relationships, except to boast, and then you are better off disbelieving them as it tends to be chaff. It's good to live in the West, since here we care about privacy, unlike in, you know, dictatorships and totalitarian regimes. Honestly, furry fans have it harsher. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soulless Watcher Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 (edited) Dude store clerks don't give a fuck, they just want you to hurry up and buy your shit, so they can go back to contemplating their empty lives in peace. My Family doesn't give a fuck either since both of my sisters love yaoi, my mom is really into those trashy cheap romance novels, and my dad LOVES Fox News. We just kinda accepted that each of us has their "thing" and left it at that. Edited January 21, 2017 by Soulless Watcher Polycentric, krill and Kawasumi 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Narcosis Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 You shouldn't really care what others think of your hobbies. It's your money and your life. It's not like they're a part of it anyway, so why would their opinions matter? Cloud87, Suzu Fanatic, ヤミハナ and 1 other 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dark_blade64 Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 9 hours ago, Cloud87 said: Fellow gamers & fellow otaku please forgive me for asking i admit it's kinda embarrassing because if anyone ever walked in on me playing any of my favorite games including these games they might be nosey and asked me what am i doing,what am i watching or what am i playing or what am i reading. Or a another good example is when & if i buy anymore in my collection online & if i choose to even though i buy my stuff both online & in public it depends and if it came they might ask me what did i buy/what do i have there or if it did not came they might ask me what am i waiting for to come in the mail. & honestly i don't know should i be honest with them & tell them what it really is or what am i really waiting for to come in the mail & no no I'm not seeking approval I'm only asking your advice ahead of time when & if i buy any in my collection. Sorry if this seems like a stupid or dumb question & yes i know some games,anime,manga can be kinda awkward if they found out your taste &/or your collection anyway i leave it here or at least for now thanks for reading,thanks for your understanding & thanks for your helpful advice & tips & before any of you asked yes I'm including any of my family including my parents,my friends,girls & women too as well if you want me to don't worry You could always play them with headphones you know. Cloud87 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krill Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 im 36 and have a wife and a 4 year old. i was honest with her from the first start or our relationship, yeah i keep the 18+ games out of his reach and don't play them when hes in the room or awake. i haven't hid the fact im a perverted otaku since i turned 13. Gibberish, Cloud87 and Suzu Fanatic 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kyrt Posted March 30, 2017 Share Posted March 30, 2017 Just go up and say "Dude I'm here for my visual novel with occasional bouts of erotic passion". Admittedly adult only games are not sold in typical stores so I don't really think this should be an issue. If someone asks you what you're waiting for tell the truth and get judged...if it's enough for them to leave then obviously they were not worth it. Just don't give a damn and be honest about your interests. Cloud87 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamnoob Posted March 30, 2017 Share Posted March 30, 2017 On 1/21/2017 at 9:58 PM, Cloud87 said: Fellow gamers & fellow otaku please forgive me for asking i admit it's kinda embarrassing because if anyone ever walked in on me playing any of my favorite games including these games they might be nosey and asked me what am i doing,what am i watching or what am i playing or what am i reading. Or a another good example is when & if i buy anymore in my collection online & if i choose to even though i buy my stuff both online & in public it depends and if it came they might ask me what did i buy/what do i have there or if it did not came they might ask me what am i waiting for to come in the mail. & honestly i don't know should i be honest with them & tell them what it really is or what am i really waiting for to come in the mail & no no I'm not seeking approval I'm only asking your advice ahead of time when & if i buy any in my collection. Sorry if this seems like a stupid or dumb question & yes i know some games,anime,manga can be kinda awkward if they found out your taste &/or your collection anyway i leave it here or at least for now thanks for reading,thanks for your understanding & thanks for your helpful advice & tips & before any of you asked yes I'm including any of my family including my parents,my friends,girls & women too as well if you want me to don't worry On 1/21/2017 at 10:18 PM, Ningen said: Step 1: grow up On 1/21/2017 at 10:22 PM, Cloud87 said: I'm just curious is that all steps you want to give me? & if you wanted to know I'm 29 years old my birthday was on December 28th last year I was actually going to condem Ningen for being so rude, that it might be a young VN lover about 14 years? and that he is being rude to another fellow VN lover who is genuinely asking for help. . . . . But 29? . . Step 1: grow up Nandemonai 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benji Price Posted March 30, 2017 Share Posted March 30, 2017 Step 2: Work and go live by yourself at your own place. The great thing about becoming an adult is that you can work and leave your parents home I don't have to hide anything from anyone. My place, my stuff. Suzu Fanatic 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corrupt Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 Whenever I have guests over I put all my shit in a box and put it in the closet, The only thing i leave is my Dragon Ball shit because people love dragon ball. Cloud87 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DharmaFreedom Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 (edited) I just want to say that you asked a question, innocently and politely. You admit it yourself that it may be a stupid or dumb question. Heck no matter the age, people can get paranoid about certain things and they'll just like some opinions on the matter to clear their mind. It's not right that what you get in return are people being rude and insulting to you. Its awful. It happens here, I noticed. Once one person insults you, a bunch of others pile on after. It doesn't stop with that one statement. People are so quick judge. Its ironic that the people that are judged so much by society [otaku] end up judging each other just as much. PS: I don't think you have to tell anyone the games you play on your time, just play what you want in your own space. You're an adult and you're purchasing adult games, its not a problem. If someone you know catches you with it then just own up to it or play it off. People aren't going to ask you to elaborate on it right?, just say adult game and that will suffice i think. Cheers Edited March 31, 2017 by DharmaFreedom question mark! Cloud87 and shadowolf64 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shadowolf64 Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 Honestly I avoid this by not buying physical media. It is so easy now to just get most of your VNs through download whether it be Steam, Denpasoft, or Nutaku. I do have some physical anime and otaku stuff but I make sure anything I have displayed isn't porn or anything that would cause people to double take. If you do have that kind of thing and don't want to be confronted about it just don't have it out. I don't know your circumstances but from my point of view if someone asks about something like a VN just say its anime or a game or something, I doubt many people will probe further if they have no interest and if they do they would most likely understand. I agree with Dharma that there is no reason to get mean about it, the guy just asked a question. Also as a side note: where do you live that you can go out and purchase physical VNs and the like? I just cannot imagine buying that from anywhere but online. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EdwardWongHPTIV Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 It's probably unreasonable for me to suggest this to anyone who enjoys VN's in which the depiction of love is undoubtedly framed with shame... but there really is nothing to be ashamed about in the first place. Just like everyone has different tastes in food, everyone has different tastes in side dishes. Even in the way they're presented. And presentation is very important in Japanese cuisine. Long story short if they complain then just tell them they have unrefined tastes. Ok, maybe that's taking it a bit too far. Cloud87 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ittaku Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 Accept that what you are doing is considered fringe. There is no need to force yourself to try and prove you're proud of it for regardless of what you think, and what others on this forum think, you will be shunned by people for what you do. You cannot convince them that there's nothing wrong with what you do much like others have said about watching porn. Consider it the same way yourself - know that there are billions of people who watch or who have watched porn yet would never admit it in public, nor discuss it as a casual topic, nor try defending it. The difference is that eroge IS fringe outside of Japan, and in Japan it's treated the same way as porn is for the west. There is no need to treat your hobby with some kind of 'gay pride' like behaviour. Unless you want to be a crusader at trying to convince the public that what you're doing is an extension of normality, it will just end up costing you. One must partition different parts of your life and social circles - what would you gain by telling people who don't understand and have no intention of understanding? Unless they were open to the idea in the first place, you'll just end up alienating people. There will be open minded people who understand and accept it but unless you know them well enough to know they are, you should just assume they won't - and it sounds like you already know that which is why you're seeking opinions here. There is also no need to do this by your lonely self as there is a community out there you can share your love of this art form - you've found one right here. Cloud87 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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