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 Little secret - most people can get laid without paying for it. It takes a mindset and some effort.

Key word being "most"

I’ve readily admitted I don’t know the guy. I’m going on the assumption that he’s probably like everyone else who has problems with the opposite sex – unsure of himself, no confidence, etc. To be frank, there are very few people in the world who are repulsive enough in any way to not be desirable to everyone else. Most people are generally average-looking, and the outliers are the gorgeous and disgusting. The 99% in between all fall somewhere in the middle. And personalities are so different from person to person it’s hard to gauge exactly what one wants.

I would wager that if we took enough females from even just this forum, and put them in proximity with one of the guys, eventually one girl would find enough common ground to like the guy enough to fool around, given enough time.

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 I’ve readily admitted I don’t know the guy. I’m going on the assumption that he’s probably like everyone else who has problems with the opposite sex – unsure of himself, no confidence, etc. To be frank, there are very few people in the world who are repulsive enough in any way to not be desirable to everyone else. Most people are generally average-looking, and the outliers are the gorgeous and disgusting. The 99% in between all fall somewhere in the middle. And personalities are so different from person to person it’s hard to gauge exactly what one wants.

I would wager that if we took enough females from even just this forum, and put them in proximity with one of the guys, eventually one girl would find enough common ground to like the guy enough to fool around, given enough time.

I suppose we're just going on different assumptions then, because mine is that he knows the situation he's in better than anyone else.

Even unattractive people can find someone if they have a good personality, the real trouble is when you're neither attractive nor interesting as a person, and it's often compounded and perhaps even caused by mental issues such as depression, anxiety, or even autism.

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 I’ve readily admitted I don’t know the guy. I’m going on the assumption that he’s probably like everyone else who has problems with the opposite sex – unsure of himself, no confidence, etc. To be frank, there are very few people in the world who are repulsive enough in any way to not be desirable to everyone else. Most people are generally average-looking, and the outliers are the gorgeous and disgusting. The 99% in between all fall somewhere in the middle. And personalities are so different from person to person it’s hard to gauge exactly what one wants.

I would wager that if we took enough females from even just this forum, and put them in proximity with one of the guys, eventually one girl would find enough common ground to like the guy enough to fool around, given enough time.

I suppose we're just going on different assumptions then, because mine is that he knows the situation he's in better than anyone else.

Even unattractive people can find someone if they have a good personality, the real trouble is when you're neither attractive nor interesting as a person, and it's often compounded and perhaps even caused by mental issues such as depression, anxiety, or even autism.

ok the truth. I'm not horrible looking but I haven't seen a girl my age in... I cannot even remember. I cannot drive so I cannot even look for any if I wanted to. Also my "personality". Yeah...... Let's say I talked to a girl and asked her to rate my personality and she gave It  a 3/10. And I agreed. So even if I tried....

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 Little secret - most people can get laid without paying for it. It takes a mindset and some effort.

Key word being "most"

I’ve readily admitted I don’t know the guy. I’m going on the assumption that he’s probably like everyone else who has problems with the opposite sex – unsure of himself, no confidence, etc. To be frank, there are very few people in the world who are repulsive enough in any way to not be desirable to everyone else. Most people are generally average-looking, and the outliers are the gorgeous and disgusting. The 99% in between all fall somewhere in the middle. And personalities are so different from person to person it’s hard to gauge exactly what one wants.

I would wager that if we took enough females from even just this forum, and put them in proximity with one of the guys, eventually one girl would find enough common ground to like the guy enough to fool around, given enough time.

make that at most 97% probably higher by some's standards. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epidemiology_of_obesity#United_States where 6% of the population is class 3 obese. Probably not "average" by any stretch.

Not to nitpick, but some people do have minimum standards, and the number of people fitting them are ironically shrinking due to expansion.

As a sanity check, in the cafe in during in right now,  judging purely by appearances, I'd only dare to talk to 7 out of the 11 females, with one of them I wouldn't go in a metre of.

 ok the truth. I'm not horrible looking but I haven't seen a girl my age in... I cannot even remember. I cannot drive so I cannot even look for any if I wanted to. Also my "personality". Yeah...... Let's say I talked to a girl and asked her to rate my personality and she gave It  a 3/10. And I agreed. So even if I tried....

 This is actually pretty amusing from my perspective.  One of the first thing any science teaches you is to get more than one sample, and statistics says to get a lot of them.  You are really selling yourself out without reason without getting a second opinion.

Also, do you not have a job or go to school? Being isolated in your house is really the only way I can imagine not running into a member of 50% of the population.  The odds are in your favor...

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 I’ve readily admitted I don’t know the guy. I’m going on the assumption that he’s probably like everyone else who has problems with the opposite sex – unsure of himself, no confidence, etc. To be frank, there are very few people in the world who are repulsive enough in any way to not be desirable to everyone else. Most people are generally average-looking, and the outliers are the gorgeous and disgusting. The 99% in between all fall somewhere in the middle. And personalities are so different from person to person it’s hard to gauge exactly what one wants.

I would wager that if we took enough females from even just this forum, and put them in proximity with one of the guys, eventually one girl would find enough common ground to like the guy enough to fool around, given enough time.

I suppose we're just going on different assumptions then, because mine is that he knows the situation he's in better than anyone else.

Even unattractive people can find someone if they have a good personality, the real trouble is when you're neither attractive nor interesting as a person, and it's often compounded and perhaps even caused by mental issues such as depression, anxiety, or even autism.

ok the truth. I'm not horrible looking but I haven't seen a girl my age in... I cannot even remember. I cannot drive so I cannot even look for any if I wanted to. Also my "personality". Yeah...... Let's say I talked to a girl and asked her to rate my personality and she gave It  a 3/10. And I agreed. So even if I tried....

are we twins? 

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 Little secret - most people can get laid without paying for it. It takes a mindset and some effort.

Key word being "most"

I’ve readily admitted I don’t know the guy. I’m going on the assumption that he’s probably like everyone else who has problems with the opposite sex – unsure of himself, no confidence, etc. To be frank, there are very few people in the world who are repulsive enough in any way to not be desirable to everyone else. Most people are generally average-looking, and the outliers are the gorgeous and disgusting. The 99% in between all fall somewhere in the middle. And personalities are so different from person to person it’s hard to gauge exactly what one wants.

I would wager that if we took enough females from even just this forum, and put them in proximity with one of the guys, eventually one girl would find enough common ground to like the guy enough to fool around, given enough time.

make that at most 97% probably higher by some's standards. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epidemiology_of_obesity#United_States where 6% of the population is class 3 obese. Probably not "average" by any stretch.

Not to nitpick, but some people do have minimum standards, and the number of people fitting them are ironically shrinking due to expansion.

As a sanity check, in the cafe in during in right now,  judging purely by appearances, I'd only dare to talk to 7 out of the 11 females, with one of them I wouldn't go in a metre of.

 ok the truth. I'm not horrible looking but I haven't seen a girl my age in... I cannot even remember. I cannot drive so I cannot even look for any if I wanted to. Also my "personality". Yeah...... Let's say I talked to a girl and asked her to rate my personality and she gave It  a 3/10. And I agreed. So even if I tried....

 This is actually pretty amusing from my perspective.  One of the first thing any science teaches you is to get more than one sample, and statistics says to get a lot of them.  You are really selling yourself out without reason without getting a second opinion.

Also, do you not have a job or go to school? Being isolated in your house is really the only way I can imagine not running into a member of 50% of the population.  The odds are in your favor...

you could say I have a job. Which is basically doing nothing all day. Once finished I go home the rest of the day. And isolate myself.

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Also, do you not have a job or go to school? Being isolated in your house is really the only way I can imagine not running into a member of 50% of the population.  The odds are in your favor...

Encountering and interacting with are two different things, I encounter plenty of people every day at uni, but I don't interact with any of them.

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 because I know it is the only way to get(for me anyway) pussy is to pay for pussy.

I get what you mean but do you really want to pay for something that will suck (figuratively)?

How old are you by the way, if you don't mind my asking?

what do you mean? How else am I suppose to get it besides this option?

Almost 23. Never kissed a girl I'll add as well.

There was someone near me charging 400 a fucking hour. That is laughable for something that will last 4 seconds for me.

Imo I still think you're still a pup, in a bit too much a rush. But then again everyone is different and have different standards. I personally think you still have plenty of time to have a chance at it the "traditional" way. Unlike what anime teaches us, you're not dead after 20 :makina: You might think you know your own future - but you don't. Only if you're stubborn about sticking to your current life path. And even then - life likes to throw curveballs and throw you completely off the track.

 

That being said, I think it would be a shitty experience to be with someone that you had to pay - to them, it's just a job - to you, it's cynical self-depreciation. I suspect any of the sexual pleasure would be drowned out by the whole situation.

 

Eitherway, Don't really have a right to say much I guess, having lost my virginity almost 20 years ago, to someone I loved. But the insight I can offer you, because of my experience - is that if you manage to end up with someone you care about, and cares about you - that first time is incredible, regardless how bad you both are at it. You don't want some experience with a escort hanging in the back of your mind, during something like that.

 

And really, if it's just a case of being horned up on hormones - get a fleshlight or something, along with lube with a warming effect, it's obviously not the same, but it's alot safer then a escort.

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  but I haven't seen a girl my age in... I cannot even remember.

He claims he hasn't seen any. Seeing someone is a form of encounter. Hence my doubtfulness of his statement.  I too rarely interact with any females. There is only one who I talk to for about 10 minutes a week during class where we make snide remarks about how dumb some of the other students are.

We both laughed when the teacher was talking about the Oedipus Complex and 80% of the class went "eeeeehh!!!???" When she said he wanted to fuck his mom.

/brag

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 Little secret - most people can get laid without paying for it. It takes a mindset and some effort.

Key word being "most"

I’ve readily admitted I don’t know the guy. I’m going on the assumption that he’s probably like everyone else who has problems with the opposite sex – unsure of himself, no confidence, etc. To be frank, there are very few people in the world who are repulsive enough in any way to not be desirable to everyone else. Most people are generally average-looking, and the outliers are the gorgeous and disgusting. The 99% in between all fall somewhere in the middle. And personalities are so different from person to person it’s hard to gauge exactly what one wants.

I would wager that if we took enough females from even just this forum, and put them in proximity with one of the guys, eventually one girl would find enough common ground to like the guy enough to fool around, given enough time.

make that at most 97% probably higher by some's standards. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epidemiology_of_obesity#United_States where 6% of the population is class 3 obese. Probably not "average" by any stretch.

Not to nitpick, but some people do have minimum standards, and the number of people fitting them are ironically shrinking due to expansion.

As a sanity check, in the cafe in during in right now,  judging purely by appearances, I'd only dare to talk to 7 out of the 11 females, with one of them I wouldn't go in a metre of.

 ok the truth. I'm not horrible looking but I haven't seen a girl my age in... I cannot even remember. I cannot drive so I cannot even look for any if I wanted to. Also my "personality". Yeah...... Let's say I talked to a girl and asked her to rate my personality and she gave It  a 3/10. And I agreed. So even if I tried....

 This is actually pretty amusing from my perspective.  One of the first thing any science teaches you is to get more than one sample, and statistics says to get a lot of them.  You are really selling yourself out without reason without getting a second opinion.

Also, do you not have a job or go to school? Being isolated in your house is really the only way I can imagine not running into a member of 50% of the population.  The odds are in your favor...

97% is still astoundingly high, even if we use that as a maximum. We'd also have to factor in what exactly are a person's minimum standards. There's also a lot of body image problems being tackled in the US, where standards of beauty are being challenged. When someone says the term obese, it's a clinical term for medical purposes, however, it doesn't necessarily take into account beauty or attraction. There are obese people who are genuinely attractive despite their size. And then there are raging fatass obese people. And that still doesn't take into account personality. Some of the most beautiful people are real assholes, and some of the fattest people are the sweetest people you can meet.

So it comes back to the individual and what they want, or as you say, minimum standards. Some people have ridiculously high standards, others have none. I would guess most people have standards that include compromise for certain factors, i.e. "I can deal with X because he/she is so good at y."

Which of course still brings us back to the point I think we agree on: if you try hard enough with the right attitude, you're more likely than not to find someone.

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I'll let you guys in a secret: Most girls may easily be attracted to hunks and gorgeous guys but we always prioritize personality, so if youre being a fucking douchebag and dont care about our feelings, then it's over. We love it when our man pays attention and attend to our needs and is quite a gentleman. That means, opening the door for us, giving us a hankerchief/tissue if we are sad, holding the umbrella for us, and know how to crack appropriate jokes that we can both relate to. Yes I've seen a 300 lb fat guy do this and successfully marry someone who looks like a Victoria Secret model.

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I'll let you guys in a secret: Most girls may easily be attracted to hunks and gorgeous guys but we always prioritize personality, so if youre being a fucking douchebag and dont care about our feelings, then it's over. We love it when our man pays attention and attend to our needs and is quite a gentleman. That means, opening the door for us, giving us a hankerchief/tissue if we are sad, holding the umbrella for us, and know how to crack appropriate jokes that we can both relate to. Yes I've seen a 300 lb fat guy do this and successfully marry someone who looks like a Victoria Secret model.

While I wouldn't classify myself and my wife like that, she's definitely the more attractive one of us. I'm average, always a bit stocky, but I've dropped weight this year. She's thin. Well, not as thin as she used to be, because she grew hips and a butt. Married over 10 years now and have two daughters together (which explains the hips and butt). It wasn't my looks, but who I was and how I treated her.

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I'll let you guys in a secret: Most girls may easily be attracted to hunks and gorgeous guys but we always prioritize personality, so if youre being a fucking douchebag and dont care about our feelings, then it's over. We love it when our man pays attention and attend to our needs and is quite a gentleman. That means, opening the door for us, giving us a hankerchief/tissue if we are sad, holding the umbrella for us, and know how to crack appropriate jokes that we can both relate to. Yes I've seen a 300 lb fat guy do this and successfully marry someone who looks like a Victoria Secret model.

that seems like to much of a chore for me to do for anyone. 

 

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I'll let you guys in a secret: Most girls may easily be attracted to hunks and gorgeous guys but we always prioritize personality, so if youre being a fucking douchebag and dont care about our feelings, then it's over. We love it when our man pays attention and attend to our needs and is quite a gentleman. That means, opening the door for us, giving us a hankerchief/tissue if we are sad, holding the umbrella for us, and know how to crack appropriate jokes that we can both relate to. Yes I've seen a 300 lb fat guy do this and successfully marry someone who looks like a Victoria Secret model.

the majority of the lasting marriages I see in my part of England have either a man who treats women right, or premarital pregnancy and a man who has enough of a sense of responsibility to marry the woman and a woman who can look past his faults.

Long story short, you either have to be a good guy or lucky enough to get a woman drunk enough to make rash decisions.

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 He claims he hasn't seen any.

Oh, good point, guess I missed that.

I'll let you guys in a secret: Most girls may easily be attracted to hunks and gorgeous guys but we always prioritize personality, so if youre being a fucking douchebag and dont care about our feelings, then it's over. We love it when our man pays attention and attend to our needs and is quite a gentleman. That means, opening the door for us, giving us a hankerchief/tissue if we are sad, holding the umbrella for us, and know how to crack appropriate jokes that we can both relate to. Yes I've seen a 300 lb fat guy do this and successfully marry someone who looks like a Victoria Secret model.

I don't really think that's a secret to most people :P

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I'll let you guys in a secret: Most girls may easily be attracted to hunks and gorgeous guys but we always prioritize personality, so if youre being a fucking douchebag and dont care about our feelings, then it's over. We love it when our man pays attention and attend to our needs and is quite a gentleman. That means, opening the door for us, giving us a hankerchief/tissue if we are sad, holding the umbrella for us, and know how to crack appropriate jokes that we can both relate to. Yes I've seen a 300 lb fat guy do this and successfully marry someone who looks like a Victoria Secret model.

I don't really think that's a secret to most people :P

It's obvious but people easily miss it because they are distracted with other bullshit like trying to look good, being good with sex, learning too many things to call themselves "experienced", stuff like that. If it's not a secret to most people, then why do we have divorces, breakups, and all this nonsense then? 

The answer to a successful relationship is already within you. Stop trying to be someone you're not and be sincere to your partner at all times. 

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I'll let you guys in a secret: Most girls may easily be attracted to hunks and gorgeous guys but we always prioritize personality, so if youre being a fucking douchebag and dont care about our feelings, then it's over. We love it when our man pays attention and attend to our needs and is quite a gentleman. That means, opening the door for us, giving us a hankerchief/tissue if we are sad, holding the umbrella for us, and know how to crack appropriate jokes that we can both relate to. Yes I've seen a 300 lb fat guy do this and successfully marry someone who looks like a Victoria Secret model.

I don't really think that's a secret to most people :P

It's obvious but people miss it because they are distracted with other bullshit like trying to look good, being good with sex, learning too many things to call yourself "experienced", stuff like that. The answer to a successful relationship is already within you. 

how are those not important? Girls don't want some white trash looking guy with wal Mart clothes. I probably need some new ones since most of mine are still from high school 

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You dont want to look like a try-hard when youre courting a girl. It becomes counterproductive, fake and scripted and it's a turn off for most of us. And girls have a keen eye for these things. They can also easily suspect if you have ulterior motives. You need to be as smooth as possible and not cut any corners.

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I'll let you guys in a secret: Most girls may easily be attracted to hunks and gorgeous guys but we always prioritize personality, so if youre being a fucking douchebag and dont care about our feelings, then it's over. We love it when our man pays attention and attend to our needs and is quite a gentleman. That means, opening the door for us, giving us a hankerchief/tissue if we are sad, holding the umbrella for us, and know how to crack appropriate jokes that we can both relate to. Yes I've seen a 300 lb fat guy do this and successfully marry someone who looks like a Victoria Secret model.

I don't really think that's a secret to most people :P

It's obvious but people miss it because they are distracted with other bullshit like trying to look good, being good with sex, learning too many things to call yourself "experienced", stuff like that. The answer to a successful relationship is already within you. 

Not going to pursue this discussion but just felt like leaving this: balance is what matters. A hot dude with lots of benjamins might get more one-night-stands than the average Joe, but that doesn't mean he won't be a good partner in a relationship. On the same note, a guy who is polite and attentive can also not be the best boyfriend. Things change based on the individuals and what they become as a couple. Of course, caring is logically core in a relationship, but don't feel like you have to demonstrate it frequently. This is probably not the best example but my ex would always say stuff like: "go fuck yourself" or "fuck off" when I tried being polite, simply because she knew I'm not the kind of guy who would open the door for her, even if I deeply cared about her well-being yadda yadda yadda.

You don't have to be an alpha male to get a girlfriend, but it helps of course. Still, just be yourself, starting a relationship with a fake personality won't do you any good, just keep in mind that you'll naturally have to change/adapt along the way. Still, clubbing is still my best recommendation if you just wanna have sex, good drinks helps as well. Nothing like some good old vodka to get people a bit out of themselves. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

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Still, just be yourself, starting a relationship with a fake personality won't do you any good, just keep in mind that you'll naturally have to change/adapt along the way. Still, clubbing is still my best recommendation if you just wanna have sex, good drinks helps as well. Nothing like some good old vodka to get people a bit out of themselves. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

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Sorry, just a pet peeve of mine >.>

And clubbing isn't an option because I don't drink nor can I dance.

I think I have too much :salt: today, I should get off Fuwa for a while :amane:

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You dont want to look like a try-hard when youre courting a girl. It becomes counterproductive, fake and scripted and it's a turn off for most of us. And girls have a keen eye for these things. They can also easily suspect if you have ulterior motives. You need to be as smooth as possible and not cut any corners.

what do you mean "ulterior motives"?

Sex? As in what every guy is looking for...?

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Dis some Fuwa relationship advice thread v2

Side comment regarding looks, its funny cuz among my peers you see girls all the time gossiping and fangirling over KPOP Big Bang's Taeyang and how hawt the dude is but no no no, if I fanboy over SNSD's Taeyeon & how hawt she is, I get called a pervert. Damn double standards.

Regarding the how2getintorelationships, first you gotta get acquainted with a gal: work on homework together, go out for some Boba Milk Tea together, and always make sure you're the one to say hi and bye whenever you meet and part.

Phase 2 is where you test the waters, throw in a flirty flirt compliment, but you gotta be smooth and don't just do it out of the blue, comment on her clothes, her hair, etc. and see how she responds, if favorably, woot woot, proceed. If not, stay bffs

Phase 3 after years of favorable respondages to your flirtages you just randomly go "yo I lik u" and then you either immediately get a bad end or start the route which will lead to a bad end eventually.

 

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You dont want to look like a try-hard when youre courting a girl. It becomes counterproductive, fake and scripted and it's a turn off for most of us. And girls have a keen eye for these things. They can also easily suspect if you have ulterior motives. You need to be as smooth as possible and not cut any corners.

what do you mean "ulterior motives"?

Sex? As in what every guy is looking for...?

Not necessarily. I've seen guys try to date women just to look good with his friends then dump her once she has done her "purpose", date her wallet instead of her if she's rich, use the girl as a "third connection" to get in touch with another girl that the guy is really interested in. Oh and dont even get me started with these immigrants who score with American women just so they can get their green card faster and get into the USA quickly...

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Dis some Fuwa relationship advice thread v2

Side comment regarding looks, its funny cuz among my peers you see girls all the time gossiping and fangirling over KPOP Big Bang's Taeyang and how hawt the dude is but no no no, if I fanboy over SNSD's Taeyeon & how hawt she is, I get called a pervert. Damn double standards.

Regarding the how2getintorelationships, first you gotta get acquainted with a gal: work on homework together, go out for some Boba Milk Tea together, and always make sure you're the one to say hi and bye whenever you meet and part.

Phase 2 is where you test the waters, throw in a flirty flirt compliment, but you gotta be smooth and don't just do it out of the blue, comment on her clothes, her hair, etc. and see how she responds, if favorably, woot woot, proceed. If not, stay bffs

Phase 3 after years of favorable respondages to your flirtages you just randomly go "yo I lik u" and then you either immediately get a bad end or start the route which will lead to a bad end eventually.

 

i thought I made it pretty clear I was looking for the pussy. Not a relationship. Especially since I know it won't last more then a week.

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