NaomiLin

I looking for VN that I play as male protagonist and I try to crossdress (for any reason) and can be able to romance with male character (either nice/bad handsome guys but not old ugly pervert men !!!)    I had my own fantasy that I want to be the woman something like that and had someone actually care or love about me (it like shounen ai / yaoi) but I prefer to be crossdress / gender bender that I can be the women. 
I read a lot of gender bender manga

 
Notes : I had try otome game and it nice I love it but in this case I want something special for myself that I hope I can find some game like that...
I struggle with my ownself that I hope in someday I can turn to be woman and had someone become friend with me or love me...

Otomaid @ Cafe is the only thing that comes to my mind. Full cross-dressing cast - it's a nukige though and I think pretty much everything within these specs will be like that. 

Thank you very much I very like Ayakashi Gohan

After Silvz's idea to make a new list of recommendations, I decided to make one just for otomege, because the general list will not have a single one. Probably. So you can look here if you're in the mood for some romance games with female protagonists. First of all, this list is MY OPINION so it's not like only those are good, the rest is trash (Or "you put xyz in here, this game is trash!"). Also, I tried to put all types of things in here, from dating sims to plotges, even if some of those titles aren't thaaaaaaat good for me simply bc it didn't fall in what I usually like (I prefer plotges than charages, mind you). Of course, you're free to add some feedback, this list is not definitive.
The order is completely random, nº 1 game is not necessarely better than nº 7!
It's too much work to add descriptions, so I'll put at least important tags for you to see what can interest you. Of course I didn't include the "Romance" tag bc every single one of these games have it. The only ones that have sexual content are the ones I said. This list contains both translated and untranslated stuff. I'll probably do one for BL games too...
 
Translated Otomeges
 
01 - Code: Realize ~Guardian of Rebirth~
   Notable tags: Steampunk, Strong Female Protagonist, Alchemy
02 - Hakuouki ~Demon of the Fleeting Blossom~
   Notable tags: Edo Era, Hero based on Real Person, Sword Combat
03 - Black Wolves Saga ~Bloody Nightmare~
   Notable tags: Medieval Fantasy, Madness, Discrimination
04 - Nameless ~The One Thing You Must Recall~
   Notable tags: Modern Day Korea, Living Doll Hero, Drama
05 - Collar x Mallice
   Notable tags: Terrorism, Police, Mystery
06 - Amnesia: Memories
   Notable tags: Unique Routes, Drama, Alternate Dimensions
07 - The Second Reproduction
   Notable tags: Fighting Protagonist, Fantasy, Demons
08 - Heart no Kuni no Alice ~Wonderful Wonder World~
   Notable tags: Literary Adaptation, Trapped, More than Seven Heroes
09 - Cinderella Phenomenon
   Notable tags: Proactive Protagonist, Curse, Fairy Tale   (This one is an OELVN)
10 - Ayakashi Gohan
   Notable tags: Youkai, Countryside, Multiple Common Routes
11 - Dandelion ~Wishes Brought To You~
   Notable tags: Kemonomimi Hero, Dating Simulation, Non-Japanese Voice Acting   (Seriously, use a walkthrough for this one)
12 - Norn 9: Var Commons
   Notable tags: Protagonist Selection, ESP, Dystopia
13 - Ozmafia!!
   Notable tags: Dramatic Love Triangle, Same Roof, Amnesia
14 - Fashioning Little Miss Lonesome
   Notable tags: Slice of Life Comedy, Joke Endings, Sexual Content
15 - Bad Apple Wars
   Notable tags: Afterlife, High School, Nakige
16 - Cupid
   Notable tags: Gothic Romance, Mystery, Protagonist with Psychological Problems   (This one is an OELVN)

Untranslated Otomeges
 
17 - Shinigami to Shoujo
   Notable tags: Brother/Sister Romance, Philosophy, Episodic Story   (Several times I heard people said that this one is the "kamige" of the otomes)
18 - Ken ga Kimi
   Notable tags: Edo Era, Youkai, Sword Combat
19 - Clock Zero ~Shuuen no Ichibyou~
   Notable tags: Nakige, Post Apocalyptic Earth, Genre Shift
20 - Yoshiwara Higanbana
   Notable tags: Drama, Brothel, Sexual Content   (Bring tissues)
21 - Kokuchou no Psychedelica
   Notable tags: Life and Death Drama, Trapped, Monsters   (Aksys will localize this one next year!)
22 - Watashi no Real wa Juujitsu Shisugiteiru
   Notable tags: Otaku Protagonist, Same Roof, High School   (Super easy to self insert here, but I don't really play for that)
23 - Sakuya
   Notable tags: Robot Hero, Future Japan, Sexual Content   (The free version, without the sexual content and with only one route, is actually translated with VNR user-submitted subs)
24 - Danzai no Maria ~The Exorcism of Maria~
   Notable tags: Christian Church, Magic, Timed Choices
25 - Bloody Call
   Notable tags: Action, Fantasy, High School   (the "chuuniest" of the bunch)
 
Extra Stuff
If you think that 25 is not enough, you can also try these novels recommended to me by awesome forum guys!
26 - Cinders  (EN)
   Notable tags: Fairy Tale, Lots of Choices, Proactive Protagonist   (suggestion by Plk_Lesiak, confirmed to be an otomege by Tamaki Sakura, but Palas added that it's not really focused in romance, thanks everyone for the feedback! Btw, this is an OELVN)
27 - Tokimeki Memorial Girl's Side 3rd Story  (EN)
   Notable tags: Dating Simulation, High School, Threesome Ending   (suggestion by onorub)
28 - Arcana Famiglia  (JP)
   Notable tags: Mute Protagonist, Comedy, Italian Mafia   (thanks onorub to make me remember that it exists >.<)
29 - Café 0 Series  (EN)
   Notable tags: Death of Protagonist, Multiple Routes Mystery, Life and Death Drama   (suggestion by SeniorBlitz)
30 - The Confines of the Crown  (EN)
   Notable tags: Fighting Protagonist, Strong Female Protagonist, Multiple Route Mystery   (suggestion by Palas. This is an OELVN)

https://vndb.org/v/all?q=&fil=tag_inc-2002~421.tagspoil-0&rfil=&s=title&o=a
https://vndb.org/v/all?q=&fil=tag_inc-421~1974.tagspoil-0&rfil=&s=title&o=a
https://vndb.org/v/all?q=&fil=tag_inc-1974~359.tagspoil-0&rfil=&s=title&o=a
I tried several vndb searches, but they don't show much (which isn't really surprising). Basically, there's this vn (a trap having sex with traps) and X-Change series.
If you like gender benders, then Ying-Yang X-Change should work.

Only ones that come to mind are these

https://vndb.org/v195
https://vndb.org/v3861
https://vndb.org/v370

only one i can think of is Yin-yang x-change where you play as a dude turned into a girl. i believe most of the routes are girls but there are some guys.. welll, theres at least one.
 
https://vndb.org/v130